MUSIC/MUSICAL: SEVEN BRIDES FOR SEVEN BROTHERS – How Not to Treat a Woman
by Randall Allen Dunn
People who dream of marriage often have wonderful dreams,
until they get married and have to deal with reality instead.
A lot of people enter their marriage with a personal agenda. It’s unspoken and perhaps unknown, even to themselves. But in their hearts and minds, they imagine what their married life will be like. How they’ll talk with their spouse, how they’ll share chores, how they’ll show affection for one another.
The problem is that these dreams begin and end in the mind of one person, and may have no relation to the dreams forming in the mind of their spouse.
In the musical, “Seven Brides for Seven Brothers”, we meet fourteen of such people.
Seven men and seven women with grand imaginations of their perfect married life that will one day come true. But they learn that to make a marriage work, they each have to make a genuine commitment to walk through life with the one they love, which means sacrificing a few things. Like their unrealistic dreams.
When mountain man Adam Pontipee (Howard Keel) arrives in town and tells a local couple he’s seeking a wife to bring back with him that same day, they’re stunned. The wife is appalled and the husband scoffs at Adam’s chances.
But Adam is determined, as he demonstrates by wandering through town with his eyes peeled, singing “Bless your beautiful hide, whoever you are …” A pure demonstration of his naïve brutish innocence.
He meets a hard-working, beautiful woman named Milly (Jane Powell), and decides she’s the one for him. He explains his proposition to her and asks, “How ‘bout it?”
Milly is attracted to Adam and intrigued by his offer of marriage, but she insists he get down on one knee and ask her properly. Adam happily does so, insisting he must have her answer that day because he’s returning to his mountain home and can’t return to town for several months. Milly quickly decides she’s ready to leave her life of cooking and cleaning for a bunch of sloppy, ungrateful men. She wants a life of her own in a house of her own, with just one husband to care for.
So she agrees and leaves with Adam.
Upon arriving, she discovers that Adam had wanted her not only for himself, but also to help cook and clean for his six brothers, who all share the same house with him.
They should have compared notes.
Milly is crushed, but determines to make the best of it, the way she has always done. But when Adam’s brothers come charging to the dinner table like a pack of wild animals, pushing and shoving one another on the way to grab whatever food they find, she refuses to serve them and walks out.
She also refuses to let Adam share the same room with her for their “honeymoon” night, feeling he tricked her into slaving for his family. So Adam decides to sleep on the tree limb outside their window. Although still angry, Milly doesn’t feel right letting him spend his first night of marriage sleeping in a tree, so she invites him back in.
The next morning, Milly tells the brothers to bathe and shave and surrender their filthy clothes for her to wash … if they want any breakfast. After she describes the sumptuous meal they would miss, the boys agree to do things her way.
From then on, the boys recognize that if they want to get wives of their own, they’ll have to behave like gentlemen. Milly teaches them how to court a woman by showing proper respect and manners, then teaches them how to dance for the upcoming barn-raising ceremony, where they’ll meet plenty of townswomen.
Adam doesn’t put much stock in Milly’s lessons on manners, but he’s been learning a few things from her himself, from all her reading. Unfortunately, a little knowledge becomes a dangerous thing. After his brothers’ failed attempts to court six townswomen, Adam suggests they do what Milly told him about, in the tale of “the Sobbin’ Women” (that is, Sabine women), when men raided a town and grabbed the women they wanted.
So Adam leads them back to town to grab the women they’ve fallen in love with and herd them back up the mountain, while the townspeople give chase. Adam and the boys cause an avalanche to cut them off, barring the path until the spring thaw.
When they return home, Milly is outraged. She brings the kidnapped girls inside to comfort them, while ordering the men to sleep in the barn, ashamed of them all. Stunned by her response, having thought he did the right thing, Adam leaves in a rage, deciding to spend the winter alone at the trapping cabin further up the mountain.
Not knowing that Milly is pregnant with their first child.
Throughout the winter, the girls get back at their would-be grooms by dumping icy water on their heads and hurling snowball-covered rocks at them.
But they also realize what they knew before: they actually love these mountain men, despite their appalling ignorance and brutish behavior.
Benjamin (Jeff Richards) visits Adam and puts him in his place for abandoning his wife and newborn child. Adam sulks, but considers that he might have made a mistake.
When he finally returns to Milly and sees his child, he tells her he’s been thinking about the baby. He realized that if anyone ever harmed his little girl – the way they kidnapped the townswomen – he would be enraged. He agrees they should never have taken them, and orders his brothers to take them back, now that the pass has opened up.
But the brothers don’t want to, and the women don’t want to leave them, either. So the women run off, forcing the men to chase them down, just as their worried families arrive to rescue them.
Seeing the mountain men chasing them, they assume the women are being attacked. They’re ready to do away with the Pontipee brothers for good, when they hear a baby crying. When they ask whose child it is, each of the women claims it to be her own … resulting in a classic shotgun wedding.
Of course, a lot of this craziness – and violence – could have been avoided by talking things out.
It would have helped for Adam to explain his home and family life to Milly, and for Milly to explain she hoped to have more time alone with her husband.
It would have helped for the brothers to express their true feelings in words, rather than a nighttime kidnapping. It also would have helped for the women to express their true feelings toward the men instead of letting the other townsmen chase them off.
It would have helped for Adam to stick it out at home when he got mad, rather than running off for the winter, holding onto his pride instead of reaching out for his wife.
It also might have helped for Milly to be more careful which stories she read Adam, or at least to include a footnote that said, “Don’t try this at home.”
At the same time, Adam and Milly save their marriage with the things they do right. It does help that Adam listens to his wife’s ideas, even if he doesn’t immediately see the wisdom in them.
It does help that he respects her, even when he doesn’t agree.
It does help that Milly and the other townswomen recognize the good intentions and sincere hearts beating behind those brutish chests, to know the Pontipee brothers mean well, even if they can’t figure out how to express it.
Expecting the best of one another is the first step in showing respect.
A lot of marital problems can be solved by respect, sensitivity and honest communication – before and during your marriage.
Want to know how you should treat your spouse?
Ask them.
Happy Valentine’s Day!
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Clockwork – a suspense short story
by Randall Allen Dunn
A disturbing shadow falls over a forgotten town, unnoticed by everyone except for an old shopkeeper …
Nothing ever changes in the vanishing town of Aaronton, Illinois. After all the years of running his little shop, Sam Wells can measure every detail of the morning routine like clockwork.
So he notices when something is out of place. Something that smells of danger. But can Sam and his aging friends realize what’s happening before it’s too late to stop it?
Friday, February 1st, 2013

was really angry a few years ago whenI heard about a Christian couple that wondered if it’s right to give gifts at Christmas. After all, they reasoned, people get so greedy about gifts at Christmastime, and the only place in the Bible that mentioned gift-giving was when malicious people gave gifts to one another to celebrate the murder of two righteous men.
Scott orders Charlie to stop the vandalism, but he agrees that something is wrong when school kids have no decorations of any kind to celebrate the happiest time of the year.
Scott changes her mind about that when he accompanies her to her faculty Christmas party, which turns out to be a dull, sour function that no one really wants to attend. Taking to the stage, Scott announces to everyone that it seems they’ve all forgotten what Christmas is really about. Using his Santa magic, he pulls out a large bag of presents from backstage, each addressed to one of the annoyed party guests. Opening their gifts, each person finds something surprising. Not a practical gift for an adult, such as a blender, a socket set, or even a sweater. But toys and games!
The same ones they loved as children. Everyone is overjoyed at the gifts they received, and amazed that some “secret Santa” somehow discovered which game they secretly cherished. It showed them that someone, somewhere, cared enough about them to give them exactly what they wanted. And for a few moments of the year, they could lose themselves in the simple childlike joy of playing with a game or toy that meant something special to them.
Even Carol, upon receiving a Baby Doll from Scott, is deeply touched. So much so that she drops all of her defenses against love, against friendship, and even against Christmas. Soon, she’s even ready to start believing in Christmas magic again, as she reconnects with the wonder she felt as a child. With the knowledge that someone somewhere knew her inside and out, and had a special gift waiting just for her.
Do people get greedy at Christmas? Of course. Does gift-giving become materialistic for a lot of people, myself included? Absolutely. In fact, my family writes out Christmas lists each year to share with one another, so we can actually know what everyone wants for Christmas. It makes shopping a lot easier when you don’t have to make random guesses. To some people, that’s pure greed at work.
But as I see it, the money I spend on others is the same money I would have spent on myself. At some point, I would plan to buy whatever items I put on my Christmas list. However, I take great pleasure in seeking out the gifts that I think others will use and appreciate. I could easily ignore Christmas tradition and the imagined “evil” of giving gifts to others, and simply buy what I want for myself. But somehow I don’t think that would be more “biblical” or more godly, or in any way demonstrate love and kindness.
realize not everyone shares this Christmas tradition. Many people celebrate Christmas without any gifts at all. For them, it is simply a time of worship and reflection, to spend time with family and be thankful for all they have. But even if you don’t give gifts at Christmas, even if you hate how Christmas has become commercialized, does that mean the act of giving a gift is somehow wrong?
It’s not. And Christmas doesn’t have to be materialistic if you don’t want it to be. Even if others view it as a time to fill their pockets with gift cards and their stockings with stuffers, you can enjoy one of the greatest aspects of this Christmas tradition: the effort that goes into finding just the right gift for someone you love.



The deputies of Albany, Georgiameet the man, Nathan Hayes (Ken Bevel), and learn he is scheduled to join their force the next day. His dangerous act later leads them to wonder whether they would have risked their own lives to save their kids that way.
At home that night, Deputy Adam Mitchell (Alex Kendrick) rejects the persistent requests of his teenage son, Dylan (Rusty Martin), to join him in a father-son 5K race. Adam sees no need to exhaust himself just so they can spend time together. Later, he takes his daughter, Emily (Lauren Etchells), onto his lap to spend time with her. When the son walks back into the room and sees this, he knows instantly that she is the favorite child. Still, Adam chooses not to look foolish by dancing with Emily in public even when she begs him.
Meanwhile, Nathan works hard to protect his family, especially his teenage daughter, Jade (Taylor Hutcherson), who sees his no-dating policy as far too strict and old-fashioned. Having never known his biological father, Nathan is determined to be a good father to his own kids.
But when Adam tries to encourage Dylan in their shared grief, he encounters a cold stone wall. Dylan wants nothing to do with him, since Adam wanted nothing to do with Dylan before the accident. Dylan refuses to form a phony father-son bond or become a “replacement” child.
Their passion for this commitment provokes a rookie deputy, David Thomson (Ben Davies), to confess that he is also a father, but had abandoned his girlfriend after she refused to have an abortion. Encouraged by Nathan, he writes to his estranged girlfriend and ultimately receives her permission to become involved in his daughter’s life again, to be as much of a father to her as he can be.
Adam starts restoring his broken relationship with Dylan, by taking him out to buy two new pairs of running shoes so they can start training for the father-son race. Meanwhile, Nathan takes Jade out for a special dinner, and gives her a purity ring that she is to wear until her wedding day, promising her heart to her father to save herself for the right man. This time, Jade doesn’t find it intrusive or old-fashioned, but understands how special she is to her father, and that any man she marries should honor her the same way.
Javier starts a new job and is finally making enough money to keep his family stable. But when his new employer offers him a promotion and also asks him to falsify some warehouse records, Javier and his wife, Carmen (Angelita Nelson), fear that if he refuses, his integrity will cost him the only real income they can count on. Committed to staying honest, Javier tells his employer he cannot play along. He is then informed that the request was a test, which several other employees before him had failed. Javier’s personal integrity ends up earning him a promotion.
Like it or not, children look to their fathers to set an example in life. To show us how to live responsibly with strength, conviction and compassion. Those who fail to set such an example are simply setting an example of apathy for their kids, that such standards don’t really matter.


The world needs good men. It’s what our military forces have often said they’re looking for.
In the film, “Captain America”, we find a different kind of goodness. Steve Rogers (Chris Evans), a 90-pound asthmatic, is determined to volunteer for military service. He’s a self-sacrificing individual who wants to fight for his country, but he can’t qualify to enlist. Even after five attempts in five different cities, claiming a different background each time.
Dr. Erskine likes Steve’s attitude, and signs him up. But Steve struggles to meet the physical demands of the military training, operating at half the strength and speed of his fellow soldiers. Toward the end of the week, Colonel Phillips (Tommy Lee Jones) is aghast that Dr. Erskine is even considering Steve for the super-soldier project. He prefers another man, who has passed every physical test and proven his abilities as a soldier. Dr. Erskine insists that the Colonel’s chosen soldier is a bully.
He alerts the men to the grenade, and they all flee for cover. All but Steve, who throws his thin body onto the grenade to take the blast, ordering the others to stay back. The entire unit is stunned, along with Steve, as they slowly realize it was a dummy grenade … and Steve was ready to die for them all.
“The serum was not ready,” Dr. Erskine explains. “But more important, the man. The serum amplifies everything that is inside, so good becomes great. Bad becomes worse. This is why you were chosen. Because a strong man, who has known power all his life, may lose respect for that power, but a weak man knows the value of strength. … And knows compassion.”

Often when we look in the mirror, we aren’t very impressed. The most successful businessman and the most beautiful model can still find something wrong with themselves. Glaring flaws which seem to disqualify them from ever reaching their goals. So when faced with a new challenge that stretches us beyond our comfort zone, we get a little tense. 
In steps Hitch – the “date doctor”. He coaches Albert on how to present himself with confidence, to focus in on Allegra and her personal concerns, and to find ways to make her notice him. When Allegra suggests to her account advisors that she wants to invest her money in a friend’s business, Albert’s supervisor shuts her down.
Albert seizes the opportunity, telling Allegra she should invest her money the way she wants, no matter what any of them think. When things start to get tense with his boss, Albert abruptly quits!
Soon, Albert is spending more and more time with Allegra, and she is finding him more and more enjoyable to be with.
People are typically more interested in how kind we are to others, how dedicated we are to a task, and how thoughtful or creative or funny we are. Someone who looks good on the outside will only attract people for so long. If there’s little substance or love beneath that gorgeous exterior, that initial attraction starts to fade … fast. So why focus on all the negative things that make us dislike ourselves, when others typically see the positive qualities that make us interesting and fun to be with?
Most people will simply believe that you are what you claim to be, as long as you deliver on your promises. Then, as you continue building new habits to improve your skills, you will gradually become the expert you were only “pretending” to be.
If you want to ask out that special someone, don’t focus on your flaws and all the reasons you think they’ll say “no”. Relax, recognize the admirable qualities you possess, and take a risk. And don’t imagine that your life depends on whether they say, “yes”. If you open your eyes a little wider, you might discover there are plenty of people who would love for you to ask them the same question.
Hitch meets with Allegra to plead Albert’s case, and she unloads on him. She seethes at Hitch for telling Albert to dance like a fool, spill mustard on his shirt, and throw away his inhaler before kissing her, all so that Allegra wouldn’t feel awkward about her own personal flaws.

New Year’s Day is a time of resolutions, when we determine to actually make changes that we’ve wanted to make for a long time. The problem is that, if we really wanted to do it all along, starting a new year won’t help us to finally get it done. It’s up to us to do it, to make whatever plans are necessary to achieve it, and to move aside any barriers that prevent us from completing it.
Later on, things get worse when a glowing green energy bubble surrounds him and transports him to a pier, where he discovers a disable alien spaceship. Inside it, he finds a wounded alien, Abin Sur (Temuera Morrison), who tells Hal he has been “chosen” by “the ring”, which Hal must now insert into a green lantern and “say the oath”. But Abin Sur passes before he can clarify any of this.
But “the oath” comes to Hal in his apartment, as the lantern’s energy communicates to him. He is soon transported again, this time into deep space, to a place called Oa, where an army of aliens from different planets all wear green uniforms that resemble Hal’s new lantern. They explain that they are the Green Lantern Corps, protecting the entire universe under the leadership of the Guardians. Charged by their individual lanterns, their rings create energy, forming whatever shapes their minds can imagine.
The Guardians have determined that an individual’s will is the greatest force in the universe, and this force fuels the rings. However, will power can be weakened by another great power: fear. So a Green Lantern must be fearless.
His ex-girlfriend, Carol Ferris (Blake Lively), knows how unreliable Hal can be. But she also sees that he has something in him that no one else has, reminding Hal that the ring chose him for a reason. Hal insists that the ring made a mistake. “The one thing that a Green Lantern is supposed to be is fearless,” he tells her. “‘Fearless’ is the job description. That isn’t me.”
When Parallax, an alien mass that feeds on fear, threatens to consume all living things, the Guardians decide to sacrifice Earth while take time they prepare a defense. A defense which involves forging a ring powered by fear, rather than will, to fight fear with more fear.
Hal returns to Oa and advises against the dangerous plan, and insists on protecting his planet. “I know you’re afraid,” he tells them.
Unable to gain their help, Hal prepares to defend Earth himself. Sinestro (Mark Strong), a Green Lantern who has made his doubts about Hal clear, tells him he will die in his attempt. But Hal insists that he will die trying.
“In brightest day, in blackest night
He finds new strength and power to fight back, his ring’s green energy forcing the monster back into deep space, where he soon finds a way to destroy it.

In other words, many people don’t believe in things that they can’t somehow
Which is why an enormous steam engine appears on the street in front of his house shortly after midnight. Rushing out in his pajamas, he gapes at the train while its steam cloud slowly rises.
Naturally, the boy is confused. The conductor lists off concerns about the boy’s waning belief in Santa Claus: he has written no list, not sat on Santa’s lap at the store, and made his sister put out Santa’s milk and cookies. “Sounds to me like this is your crucial year,” the conductor says, leaning down to the boy’s face. “If I were you, I would think about climbing on board.”
Soon, they stop at the house of a poor boy on the other side of town, who declines the conductor’s invitation. But then he starts to run after the train at the last moment, just as the first boy had. But he’s too far away to catch up.
But through the miraculous magic of the Polar Express, the ticket returns to the train a few minutes later for the boy to retrieve. Fearing the conductor intends to throw the girl off the train, the boy tries to find them. Pursuing them to the top of the train, he runs into a mysterious ghostly hobo, who encourages him not to be taken in by the whole idea of Santa Claus. “Seeing is believing. Am I right?” the hobo says.
When they board the train to return home, the boy discovers the sleigh bell has fallen through a hole in his robe pocket. The train starts off before the children can look for it, and the bell is lost forever.
Life is full of discouragement and disappointment. Christmases that “just don’t work out”. People that let us down, making us wonder why we trusted them. Losses of jobs, homes, health and loved ones that make us desp

My favorite romantic comedy is “While You Were Sleeping”. Having lost her father the previous year, Lucy Moderatz
On Christmas day, Lucy sees Peter get mugged and left for dead on the train tracks. She pulls him to safety and takes him to a hospital. As he slips into a coma, Lucy confesses aloud that she was hoping to marry him, not realizing that a nearby nurse has overheard her. When Peter’s family arrives, the nurse tells them that Lucy is Peter’s fiancée.
Lucy plans to straighten things out. But then Peter’s godfather, Saul (Jack Warden), informs the nurse that Peter’s grandmother, Elsie (Glynis Johns), is in poor health, and is barely managing the news of Peter’s coma.
Lucy makes it through the afternoon of pretending to have met Peter and fallen in love with him, using her own crush as an inspiration for her fantasy. Later that night, she visits the hospital to sit at Peter’s bedside. She begins talking to him, as a way of airing her thoughts and of secretly asking forgiveness for causing Peter’s family so much confusion.
“It´s just that … when I was a kid, I always imagined what I would be like or where I would be or what I would have when I got older,” she tells him. “You know, I´d have a house and family and things like that. Not that I´m complaining or anything. It´s just… I never met anybody that I could laugh with, you know?”
Later, Lucy decides to accept their invitation. Her only other option is to spend another Christmas sharing a meal with her cat. She is surprised when she receives a Christmas present from the family, who had counted on seeing her at dinner. As the Calaghans exchanges gifts, Lucy giggles to herself at all of their quirks, while enjoying their warmth and hospitality. What started as an infatuation over a man’s looks became a heartfelt need for something greater: an entire family of quirky relatives who will always welcome her in.
In the ongoing comedy of errors, Lucy meets Peter’s brother, Jack (Bill Pullman), and begins to fall in love with him, only to realize that she can’t date Jack while pretending to be his brother’s fiancée. When Peter awakens from his coma and doesn’t recognize Lucy, the family decides that he has amnesia. Saul then convinces Peter to spend time with Lucy and notice how wonderful she is – as the rest of the family has – and propose to her a second time so that he can remember it
She finally admits the truth that she’s fallen in love with Jack, and was never actually engaged to Peter. She apologizes for deceiving everyone. “The truth was that I fell in love with you,” she explains.
Ox is even more confused, since Lucy is looking at him. “You fell in love with me?” he asks.
Joy is a choice.
But Belle refuses to play along. She insists that Christmas must be celebrated. Not just for tradition’s sake, but because this holiday brings joy to the heart. In fact, she makes it clear that the Beast, more than anyone, needs Christmas.
she ventures beyond the courtyard gates to chop one down. Forte informs the Beast that Belle has defied his orders about Christmas, and is now escaping the castle. Convinced that she has broken her promise to stay with him, the Beast pursues her and confines her to his dungeon. Belle tries to explain that she had only wanted to make him happy, but he won’t hear it. He sulks in his private chambers with Forte, feeling betrayed.
Paul’s joy didn’t come from his circumstances. He had experienced comfort and ease, as well as the terrible need he now felt. Those things would come and go, but his lasting joy came from the new life he had found in his relationship with Jesus Christ. A joy that could never be stripped away. Joy and hope can be found even in the darkest of places, if you’re willing to receive it.
And the Beast realizes that he and his castle do need Christmas. That he can have a future, if he chooses it. A future of peace and joy, and something new and surprising, just waiting around the corner. His future might even include Belle, if she’ll have him.
Leigh Anne Tuohy (Sandra Bullock) lives a very comfortable life. She has money, a loving husband and children, an enjoyable career – everything that we all strive for. Who would have imagined – least of all Leigh Anne herself – that she wasn’t fulfilled? What more could she possibly want?
Thankfully, Michael does nothing to harm them or their belongings. In fact, he has folded the blankets Leigh Anne gave him and started a long walk back to town. Leigh Anne stops him and invites him in for Thanksgiving dinner with her family.
What she’s been missing was the chance to connect with someone who lived a completely different life. Not out of pity for what seems like less-fortunate circumstances, but out of a need to connect with people. People who see life differently. Who prize the things that she takes for granted in her seemingly perfect home life.
When an
But Michael has changed, and he can’t stomach his former friends’ insinuations about the Tuohys. He breaks ties with them, even as Leigh Anne scours the streets searching for Michael. She finally finds him, and assures him that she wants him to make his own choices about college. And that his choice has no impact on how they view him or whether they accept him.